I will be happy when the things I been praying for arrive!
I will be happy when my man finally arrives, I will be happy when I get a better job, I will be happy when I take that special trip and so on. Ok! The point I'm getting at is, often I hear when I get this or when I get that, I am going to be happy, Wrong! I am guilty of thinking material things, and a man will bring happiness. Well, life served me a dose of wake the hell up, right around 2014 and that's when self-love kicked in.
When I stopped talking to Mr. EX, I was in a siturationship.I knew what type of man I wanted, I knew how I wanted to be treated, but I allowed my self to entertain bull shit. I gave my ex 10000 times to get it right, but I knew deep down I needed to cut this off. I had my days I was happy, and I had my days where I am like "Oh hell no I'm tired of your crap attitude!" Lord knows I have had my share of dating poopy men, but this is when I had to get myself right. I love myself, and I come first.
I went on a journey where I realize; I have to make myself happy before I can be in a healthy relationship. If you are banking on a man to bring you happiness, I'm telling you that's the wrong attitude to have. If that man leaves today are tomorrow does that mean your happiness is gone, No! Not at all. Happiness is within you. Your job is to find inner peace.
I started doing some research on Law Of Attraction, which means LIKE ATTRACT LIKE. Meaning if you are happy and fun loving, then you will attract happy fun and loving, at first I'm like" yeah ok like attracts like," then I started thinking about all the dudes I have dated. I wasn't in a good head space at the time, I was dating just to fill a void and to pass the time, but I wasn't attracting what I wanted. So now in my life, I am utilizing this time to work on Ashley until Mr. Right comes along.
I have learned a lot and still learning that you are the creator of your happiness. Time waits for no one. Enjoy your life now, what you desire will slowly appear in your life until then enjoy the road ahead. HAPPINESS IS NOW!
Situationship definition: A relationship that has no label on it.. like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.